Help! My Partner Is Not a Believer
The Bible says the godly life of a Christian can testify to unbelieving spouses, who “will be won over [to God] by observing your pure and reverent lives” (1 Peter 3:1-2).
The Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband brings holiness to his marriage.” 1 Corinthians 7:14
Perhaps you, or someone you know, is married to a non-Believer. The Bible has advice for God’s people about this. The Bible teaches, “Don’t become partners with those who reject God” (2 Corinthians 6:14). But if you’re already in this situation, be encouraged! The Bible says the godly life of a Christian can testify to unbelieving spouses, who “will be won over [to God] by observing your pure and reverent lives” (1 Peter 3:1-2).
Advice to Those Not Yet Married
Find out where your partner stands spiritually -- and only move forward when you know their life has been given to Christ. The Apostle Paul asked, “How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can a Believer be a partner with an unbeliever?” (2 Corinthians 6:14-15). Seek God’s wisdom and get advice from mature Christ-followers on whether to continue the relationship. Marriage is one of the most important partnerships people enter into. Don’t simply trust your feelings. The Bible tells us “the heart is deceitful above all things” (Jeremiah 17:9) No matter what your feelings say, make your decision based on the wisdom in God’s word.
Advice to Those Who Are Married
The Apostle Paul wrote, “If a Christian man has a wife who is not a Believer and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. And if a Christian woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him (1 Corinthians 7:12-13)*. If you are married to a non-Believer, be encouraged: your Christian example and godly living could help your spouse decide to follow the Lord, as well. Go to God in prayer for your spouse and pray that they will accept Christ.
*Please note that other Scripture and actions could be applicable if you are in an extreme situation, such as an abusive relationship. We encourage you to seek further biblical and in-person Christian guidance. Feel free to contact us for prayer.
Be Who God Wants You to Be
God made you to serve Him. You can do this by being a good example to win over your spouse. While you pray for your spouse or significant other, allow God to build you into the person He wants you to be. Spend time with God daily and learn how you can be a godly spouse.
Pray this week:
To thank God that spouses can share His love with unbelieving partners.
Being married to an unbeliever is tough, I know. How can you exhibit Christ to your spouse and family today? Get encouragement from another Christian by sending us a message.